25 and Still Battling my Parents…Will it ever End?
I moved back home after 6 years of sweet independence after a breakup.It was supposed to be a 3 mo thing until my bro and I had money for furniture and such.He cannot keep a job or hold onto his money and so he is WAY behind on the deal.Its now been 8 mo of living there.My parents have "banned" us from doing certain things, like sleeping over at friend’s houses,going out too many nights during the week.We are on a family plan as far as the cell phones go,and b/c they suspected I was talking to/seeing my ex they looked at the records to see the numbers I had been calling and then confronted me about it.I have said many times that Im 25 and I pay rent to live here and I should be free to do what I please barring coming in wasted or hurting someone.I think this is a total invasion of privacy.They think Im ungrateful.They dont pay for the phone or anything else having to do with me.I have a friend who needs help with her mortgage and I need a place of freedom.
They think that they owe me no explaination about anything they do.They refuse to tell me how they know I talk to my ex even though I already know how.(they went online) My question is when is it too far?Do they have the right to know everything about everything in their adult child’s life?Do they have the right to institute rules and bannings?My friend needs help and I need a place, but I have much younger siblings that will be heartbroken when I go.They did know that it was temporary at the beginning and I was supposed to wait for my bro but he is really slacking and its been too long.I feel like I have to ask permission for things and ask for my freedom, and that bugs me.My parents are still very intimidating to me for some reason.How do I get the "balls" to really really tell them NO not "i have a problem with that" They say they are not controlling,I think otherwise.Im 25 have a great job for 7 yrs,earn good money,good work ethic,go to family things,nice person…any advice?
Tagged with: 6 years • adult child • bro • bugs • cell phones • explaination • freedom • furniture • google • invasion of privacy • job • money • mortgage • parents • script type • text javascript • younger siblings
Filed under: Old World Bar Stools
Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!
Unfortunately, this will only end when you move out and live by your own rules.
When you live with your parents (or anyone else), you have to follow by their own rules. If you don’t like it, get out.
This isn’t to say it’s 100% fair, but there isn’t much you can do unless you can find a way to compromise.
Simply put……..sounds to me like you should be on your own……mom at dad’s don’t deserve it either……..they have a life also…….and need rest………..not crowds……..you know the old story about guess, fish. and 3 days……..well theres a lot of truth to it…………..have fun……….and enjoy yourself.Get out of their lives and they will get out of yours and probably all will be happy
Step up, it is obvious you can not rely on your brother. Just get out and end the suffering on both sides.
Ask yourself. Why did you breakup? There is a reason for why you broke up. Leave the relationship and move on, if it was abusive, or you could try to work it out if you’re really willing to but don’t expect him (or maybe you were the problem) to change.
Anyways about your parents, move out of their house. You’re an adult and you shouldn’t be controlled like that. You need your independence.
Remember your independence is move important than some heart-broken siblings. They will "heal" but you won’t if you don’t leave.
Good luck!
Leave your brother behind. Seems like he will be keeping you at your parents for a long time and this won’t stop untill your out of there. Your parents seem like they have a stick somewhere, no offence. You are 25 and probably have matured enough to make the right choices for your life. Lol or tell them when they get to old to live alone and move in with you that you wont let them do anything.
regroup, make plans to move as soon as possible so you can live by your own rules and have you own peace of mind
Hate to admit it but if you don’t like it you gotta leave. My sister was in this same situation with our parents. She had to learn to deal until she could get out on her own again. It really sucks but they are your parents and no matter how old you are they will still be able to tell you what to do, and not doing it is disrespectful no matter how ridiculous it seems. Good Luck to you and I hope you find a place of your own and that this doesn’t ruin your relationship with your parents.