after divorce.. money issues.. would this bother you?
So my ex and decided to divorce about a year ago. During the marriage i made sure to save money for "our" future and stick to a budget, i mean i could have been one of those wifes that didnt care and just spent every single penny and even put us in debt, but im not that type of person. So before we divorced we paid off my car, only about 00 left on it, then put 00 down on a new car for him so it was even. then we pretty much split the rest of the money in the savings evenly.
in a few short months after we divorced he had already spent all of the money he got (around 00) and now has debt. It bothers me that i spent all those years saving and he just goes out and spends it all on nights out partying and drinking and new clothes and tattoos and a new speaker system for his car. i now feel like i should have been a bit*h and tried to take it all especially since now he probably makes more than twice what i do.
should this bother me??? would it bother you???
also, when i moved out he found out he was getting stationed in Italy, so he rented the house out to someone he worked with. Since we knew the person who would be living in the house we agreed to leave the large furniture in the house for him to use temporarily since the ex could not take it to italy and it would not fit in my new much smaller apartment, and that i would get the furniture from the house when i decided to move back to Texas.
a month or so later the ex called and said they guy living in the house would like to buy the furniture from us rather than trying to find new, i decided that would be ok. well it has now been MONTHS and have not heard anything else, like did the guy living there give my ex money??? or did he change his mind and dosnt want to buy it??? and now i am wondering and a bit pissy because of some pictures i saw on facebook.
Apparently the guy that lives in the house had a party at the house. outside. and he took the nice dining room table, chairs and nice leather bar stools OUTSIDE! the table was being used as a beer pong table! these things were not cheap and now im pissed because if he has not paid for them he needs to be more respectful of other peoples things…. and if he has paid for them my ex has not given me money for them….
how would you feel about this?? what would you say to the ex???
ok.. i know his finances are not my problem.. i know i cant change most of it, that was not my question really.
i was MAINLY asking if these things would bother you, even in the slightest??? knowing that you worked and saved for years and then he just blows it all, i guess it dosnt matter married still or divorced, would that bother you??
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Most of what you have written you say you both agreed on, so you can’t now change your mind once you have agreed………..contact the guy who is renting directly and ask if he has paid for the furniture, how much and who he paid…………then you can contact your ex ( if you choose to) and know before he decides to lie about it……………….personally I would put the past in the past and get on with your life, constantly worrying and getting upset about things is not helping you move on with your life and if there are no children involved then all the better.
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HIS finances are no longer your problem. Let it go.
The furniture you may or may not use in the future is not worth worrying about. You are obviously good with money, and you’ll be able to buy new furniture when you are ready for it.
As long as there is nothing left behind of sentimental value – put it all in your past and only look forward.
Since I was married for a long time, lost the better part of a million bucks to my ex’s overspending, lost a couple hundred grand in the divorce itself, and since she tells the kids her current financial situation is my fault, yeah, stuff like that bothers me from time to time.
But the best thing is to put it in the past. You stayed married too long to a spendaholic, he blew money, and it hurt your finances.
Now, you get to live your life and control what money you have left and what money you earn. What he does doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t say anything to him. Presumably everything about the house and furniture in it is covered by your divorce decree. If he’s violated it, hire an attorney and try to recover your money, if it’s more than the cost of a lawyer. Sometimes it isn’t and you have to just let it go.
It might bother me…but there is really nothing to be done about it.
You are divorcing. Don’t allow your anger to give him more ammo to make you crazy in the future.
Consider it part of the financial cost of the divorce. Make a list of the things you let him have, and count them toward HIS portion of any settlement…but don’t dwell. Over is over, and it sounds like you are getting out of this just in time.
Good luck!