after divorce.. money issues.. would this bother you?
Wednesday, August 18th, 2010 at
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Most of what you have written you say you both agreed on, so you can’t now change your mind once you have agreed………..contact the guy who is renting directly and ask if he has paid for the furniture, how much and who he paid…………then you can contact your ex ( if you choose to) and know before he decides to lie about it……………….personally I would put the past in the past and get on with your life, constantly worrying and getting upset about things is not helping you move on with your life and if there are no children involved then all the better.
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HIS finances are no longer your problem. Let it go.
The furniture you may or may not use in the future is not worth worrying about. You are obviously good with money, and you’ll be able to buy new furniture when you are ready for it.
As long as there is nothing left behind of sentimental value – put it all in your past and only look forward.
Since I was married for a long time, lost the better part of a million bucks to my ex’s overspending, lost a couple hundred grand in the divorce itself, and since she tells the kids her current financial situation is my fault, yeah, stuff like that bothers me from time to time.
But the best thing is to put it in the past. You stayed married too long to a spendaholic, he blew money, and it hurt your finances.
Now, you get to live your life and control what money you have left and what money you earn. What he does doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t say anything to him. Presumably everything about the house and furniture in it is covered by your divorce decree. If he’s violated it, hire an attorney and try to recover your money, if it’s more than the cost of a lawyer. Sometimes it isn’t and you have to just let it go.
It might bother me…but there is really nothing to be done about it.
You are divorcing. Don’t allow your anger to give him more ammo to make you crazy in the future.
Consider it part of the financial cost of the divorce. Make a list of the things you let him have, and count them toward HIS portion of any settlement…but don’t dwell. Over is over, and it sounds like you are getting out of this just in time.
Good luck!