How to resolve this issue before it gets out of hand.?
This is a long and strange story, but please read it all.
My girlfriend was an exotic dancer, and one night while at work met a man. This man fell madly in love with her, as most men do, (she’s quite beautiful) and started showering her with attention, and gifts. He bought her all kinds of things, because as he said he wanted to spoil her, and he said he wanted to show her what love really was. When we had to move and could not find an apartment, he bought a house and let us live in it. The only thing he wanted as payment he said was a hug & kiss from her. He bought furniture for the house, beds, bar stools, dressers and a kitchen table and chairs. One night he decided to let himself into the house, he was the owner and had a key, so he figured he had the right to just go in whenever he pleased. So he waited until we were both at work and let himself in. He went through our personal belongings! So we decided we had had enough of his craziness and decided to leave the area completely. He told my girlfriend that she could take the bed he bought her, but no other furniture. We took everything else he bought her, as he had said he bought these things for her because she either a) needed the items, or b) he loved her and wanted to buy her anything he could. They were gifts. Ok, now fast forward 3 months later. We are happily settled in our new home, looking for work. When one day we find out that there are THEFT charges against us both! Now to make matters even worse, because we moved out of the state, and the police couldn’t find us to serve us paperwork, there are now warrants issued for both of us. What on earth do I do? I didn’t steal anything from this man, we only took what he said we could, the BED and all of his "gifts" to my girlfriend.
We are being charged separately, and have both gotten a public defender. Her lawyer said he thinks that the charges are crap, that it sounds like a scorned lover trying to get revenge. My lawyer hasn’t spoken to me. SO what can I do to prevent myself from going to jail? How can I prove that I didn’t take anything from this guy if my lawyer won’t even talk to me untill the day I go to court? My girlfriend has a spotless record, I on the other hand…well let’s just say I’ve been in my fair share of trouble. I feel like I’m going to go to jail for something that I didn’t do…all because this man is upset that this lady would rather be with me than him. Someone help me please.
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Wow, that is quite a story. Look, here’s the deal. This issue is already out of hand. If you’ve got warrants out for you…that is a big deal. My suggestion is this…unless you can prove that all of those items were actual gifts…(e.g. via letter, email or text exchange…) it’s a tough case to prove. If he had you all sign an actual lease stating that the housing came "furnished" & or has receipts of any sort, then he does have something to work with. The bottom line is this…always always know…that if you knowingly accept something from someone you NEVER intended to be involved with or it started out with "strings attached" then there will always be strings attached. The best policy is to not accept gifts from "strangers". Yes, the bottom line is friendly or not friendly…he was a stranger…he knew what he wanted ultimately…you & your girlfriend knew what the deal was going in…that things are seldom "free" in life. His whole being screamed, "Use me…use me…go ahead…it’s ok"…and so you did…you used him. BUT you didn’t have to…you all could have provided for yourselves with no strings attached and a sense of pride for taking care of yourselves. Sure, he used you all in some form or fashion (it’s a power trip for some "with an agenda") to be able to provide and be the "have" for the "have nots" and then start calling the shots…that’s the bottom line.
There was verbal agreement all around…that’s the problem…when you don’t get things spelled out in writing or letters or anything…it’s all going to boil down to he said…she said. Talk to your lawyer…good luck.
refer to her lawyers thoughts