Is this Child neglect and if So, What do I do?
My Husbands Friend and the Best man in Our wedding is a good guy. My husband now 24 and his Friend who is 19 grew up next to each other when my husband moved from Russia to the USA.
Here is the Help I need.
Jr who is my husbands Friend lives in Complete Fifth with his 13 year old sister and Parents. They have 7 cats who Pee and Poop everywhere, In the Kitchen on the furniture Etc. Every time we go visit the Whole house reeks of piss and poop. There are filthy dishes with Bugs swarming in the Kitchen.The Daughters bed reeks of Cat peep and poop and is nasty. Her clothing is Dirty and there only Bathroom leeks and as mold everywhere.
I can’t Stand going into the house. Every time I do visit the daughter complains of being hungry and there is only dirty nasty food in the Kitchen so I end up taking her out.This family is a Nice family but has fallen on hard times. But I breaks my heart seeing the condition that the family lives in. I have invited them to my house for dinner but they cannot afford the gas to drive 20 miles. I have gotten the Daughter clothing and things she needs. My husband and I just bought our first house, Its is small but very clean and cozy. We have invited Jr and his Sister to stay with us but because of work and school it’s just too far.
My husband was only 12 when he met the family and things were different then.
I really want to help them but I don’t see how else I can. What Do I do?
The mother makes about 200 dollars a week Working at home based day care. The Father works for Ford but was Laid off.
I am not sure of there whole background but they only have a HS education.
The cats are there lives and it would break there heart if they were let go.
They do make Money. The dad brings home about 500 a week.
They feed there cats dollar store crap. All the cats have worms and Fleas too. I bought my new dog by for a visit and he came home with Fleas. We keep a Accumulate house.
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call the police or child services, remain anonymous, dont even tell your husband what you are doing, and yes this is TOTAL CHILD ABUSE,
I don’t believe it’s child neglect. Maybe you can help get rid of the cats and have a cleaning day over there? Or make further arrangements for the child to stay with you while he gets back on his feet.
Gillian—
try linking them with welfare or food and clothing banks in your area.
yes this is a form of child neglect, you should call child protective services
hard times have nothing to do with getting off your but and cleaning your house, they are lazy and gross. i think your husband should just have the uncomfortable conversation with his childhood friend.
No wonder why they are broke all the time, how many animals do they have? Yes, this does constitute a call to Child Protective Services. I believe you can remain anonymous. Please do it today.
Better to be safe then sorry, if child services finds nothing wrong then no harm will come of it, but at least you tried.
Edit: you can remain anonymous.
do both the parents work, if not they should really try and get a job
can you tidy up so at least they have somewhere tidy to live in and you could wash any clothes for them
i no it not far that you can’t do much to help but they have to help themselves as well and there is no excuse for being messy if they are disabled or can’t work for some reason can’t they claim money
hope this helps
Pretty nasty… call the ASPCA & CPS annonymously. If they’re so "poor", how can they afford to feed all those cats? Nothing against cats, I have ONE and only one & we keep our apartment immaculate. And for goodness sake, they could get papertowels, comet, and 409 for under $5!
Yup,it is child neglect.Contact your local CPS.This child is the parent’s responsibility.NO child should be living in this type of condition,if your gonna have pets you gotta take care of them they are also your responsibility.But maybe the family is going through a tough time give them some time to see if their condition improves,if not call CPS right away!
EDIT:Wow the cats have fleas and worms these animals are being neglected too,these people are doing the double act neglecting a child and a bunch of cats.PLEASE CALL CPS
this Is DEF a Form of child neglect. Not being able to help the kids is leaving them emotionally scarred. Suggest to them that selling the cats is a good idea. Maybe help out by washing the bed seats,
This family NEEDS to get back on track asap.
Edit: I know itll be hard but theyre pets are getting pet neglect too. Explain to the if they bring their pets to the ASPCA they’ll get wormed and they’ll get cleaned and live happy lives.
they need to take care of their children before pets.
Unfortunately it does sound like they need help. Calling child protective services does not mean they will be automatically lose the children. They might provide counseling and parenting classes which might encourage them to clean the house. Poverty is no excuse for having a messy house. You can call CPS and your identity wil be confidential. Best of luck and I hope they get their act together for the sake of the their children.
My house is not perfectly clean. But may children are fed. When my kids refuse to clean what they know are theirs to clean then I refuse. But to let it continue is a no-no. I her clothes are dirty and smell of cat pee then she is being neglected. Everyone is having a hard time right now , but they could at least make sure the kids are clean. You may want to make that call. God only knows what else might be in that house that they can’t see that can really hurt them all.
they might be violating city laws (if they are in a city) just by having so many cats. if they have enough clean liter boxes, cats shouldn’t be using the furniture to potty.
If the father was laid off, he should have enough time to clean.
I think you either report them for having too many cats in an unclean environment or for having a child in an unclean environment, or both. If they were really good friends of mine, I would sit them down and tell them that animal control and human services would take their pets and their daughter if they saw this and they need to do something and you’ll help them get started but they’ll have to keep up with it on their own. If the cats aren’t fixed, see if there is a low income spay/neuter place that will do that for free so they don’t end up with even more cats.
i hope you can help them get back on the right track. if not, definitely make some anonymous calls.
childwelfare.org defines child neglect thusly: Neglect
Neglect is frequently defined in terms of deprivation of adequate food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision.
Some states also include failure to educate and failure to provide adequate medical treatments to children as forms of neglect.
This child is living in a filthy environment and isn’t given proper clothing or nutrition. It is shameless that you are allowing this to continue. You need to contact the Child Protective Services immediately. If the child goes to school, contact the counselor at school as well. They’ll look into it, and make an additional report to CPS with all the weight that their authority carries. This environment is very unhealthy and she isn’t likely to raise her own children any better in the future if she isn’t taught that this isn’t an appropriate way to live.
You also need to contact your local ASPCA. This environment and the condition of those animals is criminal animal abuse. As much as they claim to "love" their animals, if they truly cared about them, they would give them to someone who could properly care for them.
I know it is difficult reporting people who you care about, but something must be done. The authorities will help them try to rectify the situation before any moves to remove the child. Think about this: If you saw someone treating their child this way that you didn’t know, wouldn’t you report them? The child’s (and in this cause the animals’) well being must be the top priority.
Being poor doesn’t mean you can’t be clean.