Parents: When your teens/young adults decide?
Thursday, February 4th, 2010 at
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Anything that I have no use for. Part of moving out and living on your own is having to go through that process of figuring out what you need and prioritizing it. Of course they get their cloths but I don’t know about furniture and stuff. Some they may get but I think it has to do with how much they need to learn first.
Many parents want to see their young adult kids set up well in their new place, but that doesn’t necessarily mean taking all the "spare" furniture. It’s just something you talk to them about if you plan to move out.
It’s reasonable to ask them what they would be willing to let you have. It’s unreasonable to expect them to give you everything you want.
My children took their beds and personal belongings and furniture we had given them as gifts, like their desks. They had worked treeplanting before they moved out so they could set themselves up. They got student loans and jobs and bought or rented to own their own furniture. We gave them nice household items for Christmas and birthday presents.
I was able to take any of the furniture I paid for! That included my bedroom furniture. But my parents weren’t happy about it. They got over it when they remembered that I had paid for the whole thing, but there’s no way they would have given me the extra furniture.
Asking them if you could have it or pay them for it at a very discounted rate would be nice and adult of you. But don’t "expect" to take it. That sounds a tiny bit selfish and immature. On the other hand, my parents may have just had other expectations of me. They really did not want me to move out, so they made it really difficult.
Good luck on your move!