I don’t know what to do. I live with my mom, and my parents got divorced about 2 years ago. She has a really good job and I basically get whatever I want. I know I’m kind of spoiled, but my mom says I deserve it. So I have a good life here. But, my mom is drunk every night. She started going to AA meetings for a few weeks but then me and my bro found out she was really just going to the bar that whole time, and when we accused her of drinking, she said she was just tired, not drunk. (Thats the main reason I want to leave) Honestly, she’s only slobber in the morning before work, and right after work until she starts drinking. When she starts drinking, she starts acting like a total b****. But, if I move in with my dad, I’d miss my sister and friends and my dog. My bros moving in with his dad(we have different dads), so I wouldnt see him anyway. My dad doesn’t have a job, but he’s living with my grandma and he’s pretty stable. He rarely drinks(the last time he drank was at bachelor party, 2 months ago.) He’s trying to get a job, too. I haven’t seem him for 2 years. My dad’s bipolar and he acts… well, weird if he doesnt take medication(lol i have a messed up family) but, he takes his medicine every day and hes happy. my moms always stressed and drowns herself in alcohol, but my dad still isnt all perfect. hes living with my grandma, and shes kind of mean. i wouldnt want to live with her. my mom drinks soo much, and i cry myself to sleep most of the time. I honestly want to live with my dad, but is that just because I havent seen him for 2 years and miss him, and if i move in with him will i regret it and move back? my mom said once i move there, im not coming back except for visits. what should i do? move in with my dad, or stay with my mom?

and another thing, if i move in with my dad, ill lose a lot of things. ill have to get all new furniture because im going over train and ill only bring things thatll fit in suitcases. oh, and my mom is soooooo nice and sweet and loving when shes not drinking, and whens shes like that(which is rare) i forget all about me hating her and smile and say im sorry for everything, and then she goes right back to drinking. i love both of them what do i do?
I barely get to see my dog anyway. And my grandmas not mean, she just gets mad easily.

My boyfriend does not drink at home and only drinks when he goes out with his friends, but most times when my boyfriend goes out, he gets smashed, to the point where someone has to help him into the house.

A couple of months ago, we had a series of weddings and birthdays to attend. At a birthday party, he got really drunk, almost got into a fight with someone in a bar. At a wedding, he got really really drunk, made a little scene and passed out again when he got home. A week later at another wedding where he was a groomsman, he got so drunk that he made a scene, threw chairs, and some other stuff.

Now, after the last wedding, he said he was never going to get like that again (upon threat of a break up). Since then, he hasn’t drank, which I was really proud of and happy for. I knew that he would eventually drink again, but I thought he would be better.
Last night, we went to dinner with his bro and cousin, we had a few drinks and then went back to his house and (cont.)
and he had a few more drinks with his brother. After than, he was pretty buzzed and went out with his friends that same night to go drink.
I get a call at 5 am from his friend saying that he’s passed out and he needs somewhere to stay. So he comes over and we both have to carry him in my house.

Now he tells me today that he had no more than 2 drinks and he got that drunk from what he drank prior to that.

I am upset that he drank to that point and am concerned that he is turning into an alcoholic. But he doesn’t drink unless he goes out.

He doesn’t think anything is wrong with it and that I am over reacting. Also, the fact that I bring up what happened at the wedding is like throwing it in his face.
I dont want to break up with him so please don’t tell me that.

His arguement is that he was well behaved, didn’t fight, and had a DD.
Mine is that his first time out should not have lead to passing out, that he should have showed me he can not reach that point.
I am concerned that this will lead to alcoholism and that he is so easy to dismiss passing out yesterday.

I moved back home after 6 years of sweet independence after a breakup.It was supposed to be a 3 mo thing until my bro and I had money for furniture and such.He cannot keep a job or hold onto his money and so he is WAY behind on the deal.Its now been 8 mo of living there.My parents have "banned" us from doing certain things, like sleeping over at friend’s houses,going out too many nights during the week.We are on a family plan as far as the cell phones go,and b/c they suspected I was talking to/seeing my ex they looked at the records to see the numbers I had been calling and then confronted me about it.I have said many times that Im 25 and I pay rent to live here and I should be free to do what I please barring coming in wasted or hurting someone.I think this is a total invasion of privacy.They think Im ungrateful.They dont pay for the phone or anything else having to do with me.I have a friend who needs help with her mortgage and I need a place of freedom.
They think that they owe me no explaination about anything they do.They refuse to tell me how they know I talk to my ex even though I already know how.(they went online) My question is when is it too far?Do they have the right to know everything about everything in their adult child’s life?Do they have the right to institute rules and bannings?My friend needs help and I need a place, but I have much younger siblings that will be heartbroken when I go.They did know that it was temporary at the beginning and I was supposed to wait for my bro but he is really slacking and its been too long.I feel like I have to ask permission for things and ask for my freedom, and that bugs me.My parents are still very intimidating to me for some reason.How do I get the "balls" to really really tell them NO not "i have a problem with that" They say they are not controlling,I think otherwise.Im 25 have a great job for 7 yrs,earn good money,good work ethic,go to family things,nice person…any advice?