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my 3 year old son goes to my mom’s during the day for his daycare because i can not afford day care for him and his sister since he turned 3 he has been acting out all day when i am gone jumping on the furniture , walking on the kitchen table, breaking toys, saying things to her like i don’t have to when she puts him in the corner for time out he laughs at her and tells her she is funny …now my mom has a bad back and can not chase him but he gets out the front door no matter how many locks you have on the door and runs away and thinks it funny …i’v tried taking away all his toys, i’v took away the T.V shows he likes, he has been all they way down to only getting meals and water to drink because i told him that little boys that act up don’t get the good stuff to eat ..and my mom backs me up on everything i say but it’s not working he has gotten so bad when he is over there that my dad says that if i don’t get him undercontroll he can’t come back …please help

My Husbands Friend and the Best man in Our wedding is a good guy. My husband now 24 and his Friend who is 19 grew up next to each other when my husband moved from Russia to the USA.
Here is the Help I need.

Jr who is my husbands Friend lives in Complete Fifth with his 13 year old sister and Parents. They have 7 cats who Pee and Poop everywhere, In the Kitchen on the furniture Etc. Every time we go visit the Whole house reeks of piss and poop. There are filthy dishes with Bugs swarming in the Kitchen.The Daughters bed reeks of Cat peep and poop and is nasty. Her clothing is Dirty and there only Bathroom leeks and as mold everywhere.
I can’t Stand going into the house. Every time I do visit the daughter complains of being hungry and there is only dirty nasty food in the Kitchen so I end up taking her out.This family is a Nice family but has fallen on hard times. But I breaks my heart seeing the condition that the family lives in. I have invited them to my house for dinner but they cannot afford the gas to drive 20 miles. I have gotten the Daughter clothing and things she needs. My husband and I just bought our first house, Its is small but very clean and cozy. We have invited Jr and his Sister to stay with us but because of work and school it’s just too far.
My husband was only 12 when he met the family and things were different then.
I really want to help them but I don’t see how else I can. What Do I do?
The mother makes about 200 dollars a week Working at home based day care. The Father works for Ford but was Laid off.
I am not sure of there whole background but they only have a HS education.
The cats are there lives and it would break there heart if they were let go.
They do make Money. The dad brings home about 500 a week.
They feed there cats dollar store crap. All the cats have worms and Fleas too. I bought my new dog by for a visit and he came home with Fleas. We keep a Accumulate house.