what do i do when i want my marriage to work out desperately for the sake of the baby on the way when my husband tells me to have faith and hope that we can be together again one day, when all he does is go out to bars and clubs with his friends, and live at his friends house.

he calls me about 4 times a month in the early morning hours to get an update about my life, the pregnancy etc. but he wont tell me what he does with his time, why he calls so late, etc. i am completely in the dark. i have asked him if there is some other woman and he tells me no. he says that he still calls me his wife.

he hasn’t supported me in any way since he’s left, bought nothing for the baby, not even been to a doctors appt. i’ve seen him only once when he helped me to move in some baby furniture that i bought and he didn’t even offer to help pay for that.

he says he will help me babysit so i can work and not have to have baby in daycare all the time, that i should keep working on my problems by continuing to see my counselor etc.

i dont think he does anything to work on his issues. he wont go to counseling with me, since everything is my fault anyways. i really feel like he really loves his single life, and i dont have much faith that he truly wants to be with me.

i feel really abandoned. i cant call him on the phone for any support. he wants his "space". yet, he says he wants to work things out someday.

someday when? i feel like i’m plan c,d, or e on his list or something.

i’m really struggling with my feelings of wanting things to work out because i do love him, hearing his words of getting back together, but then seeing his actions of completely dropping out of my life.

i have no idea if he is sleeping with someone else? what he does, or who he hangs out with now??

i feel lost, rejected and humiliated with my growing belly and not even a man beside me who cares, much less a husband.

he can hide all he’s done, what’s going on simply because he’s a man. i feel society generally thinks it’s ok that he run off and start a new family someday.

my relative told me i should just drop the baby off at his friends doorsteps (where he lives) and let him deal with it all 100%.

i cant do that!!!!! i was offended that she would say that but i can understand the reasoning behind it.

do you think he will grow up and want to come home eventually? or do you think his actions now or likely indicators of future behavior and involvement.

1.) i guess what i’m saying is, should i hold out for hope that he will stop putting the bars, friends, women, first in his life and he’ll come home one day, helping me with the newborn in the meantime?…

2.) or should i start divorce proceedings with in a year after the babys born if there is no significant improvement in communication or willingess to be a family?

3.) so what would happen if i just sit on this for a couple of years and live in the separation limbo land?

thnks

what do i do when i want my marriage to work out desperately for the sake of the baby on the way when my husband tells me to have faith and hope that we can be together again one day, when all he does is go out to bars and clubs with his friends, and live at his friends house.

he calls me about 4 times a month in the early morning hours to get an update about my life, the pregnancy etc. but he wont tell me what he does with his time, why he calls so late, etc. i am completely in the dark. i have asked him if there is some other woman and he tells me no. he says that he still calls me his wife.

he hasn’t supported me in any way since he’s left, bought nothing for the baby, not even been to a doctors appt. i’ve seen him only once when he helped me to move in some baby furniture that i bought and he didn’t even offer to help pay for that.

he says he will help me babysit so i can work and not have to have baby in daycare all the time, that i should keep working on my problems by continuing to see my counselor etc.

i dont think he does anything to work on his issues. he wont go to counseling with me, since everything is my fault anyways. i really feel like he really loves his single life, and i dont have much faith that he truly wants to be with me.

i feel really abandoned. i cant call him on the phone for any support. he wants his "space". yet, he says he wants to work things out someday.

someday when? i feel like i’m plan c,d, or e on his list or something.

i’m really struggling with my feelings of wanting things to work out because i do love him, hearing his words of getting back together, but then seeing his actions of completely dropping out of my life.

i have no idea if he is sleeping with someone else? what he does, or who he hangs out with now??

i feel lost, rejected and humiliated with my growing belly and not even a man beside me who cares, much less a husband.

he can hide all he’s done, what’s going on simply because he’s a man. i feel society generally thinks it’s ok that he run off and start a new family someday.

my relative told me i should just drop the baby off at his friends doorsteps (where he lives) and let him deal with it all 100%.

i cant do that!!!!! i was offended that she would say that but i can understand the reasoning behind it.

do you think he will grow up and want to come home eventually? or do you think his actions now or likely indicators of future behavior and involvement.

1.) i guess what i’m saying is, should i hold out for hope that he will stop putting the bars, friends, women, first in his life and he’ll come home one day, helping me with the newborn in the meantime?…

2.) or should i start divorce proceedings with in a year after the babys born if there is no significant improvement in communication or willingess to be a family?

3.) so what would happen if i just sit on this for a couple of years and live in the separation limbo land?

thnks

I got sick on 25 december 2008 it 1st started at night and then in the afternoon the next day it got worse , i went to the doctors and then the next night i went to the hospital as i had diareaha and vomiting, fever, and that which lasted a hole week, 29th decemeber i went to my own doctor who got me 2 do stool test which came back positive for salmonella ever since then all my tests have been positive so the doctor put me on ciprofloxacin which i finished yesterday but i still have a temperture and i cant go back to work till im clear as i work in a old peoples hospital in the kitchen, basically ive had this for over a month and i start school next week
P.S i hav no more symptoms just temperture

Hi, i slipped on a wet floor and cut my neck open on a upside down chair leg. I went to the hospital in a ambulance. Then i saw the doctors about 3 times for my pain and scars. I have a lawyer. How much money do you think i can win?

I have lived with a man for 6 years. 5years ago he tore the inside of the house out. We only have a family room that is almost done. My kitchen is only 3 foot wide, no table, the bedrooms have no walls or doors, and his cats have used the whole house as their litter box. I am now dying from all the poisons of the urine on the furniture and the kerocene he uses to heat the house. I have been trying to move out, but he has also taken my money. Even the doctors have told him of my health is due to the house.

I take opates for pain and they cause constpation. I’ve tried fruits, vegitables, over the counter fiber, stool softener and I’m still having problems. These are my doctors ideas.

Someone told me about a tea to drink before bedtime (but I forgot). Does anyone know what it is or have suggestons for the problem?

Thanks for any help!