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Long story short, about a month & half ago my ex & I reconnected.. He looked me up, pursued me & we started talking again. In this instance I felt it was worth a try (the reasons we had broken up are reversible) & would regret it more if I didn’t try.. We had dated over 3 years & were broken up for a little over a year. I dated a couple people, he dated one person during that time. Anyway.. Just before we had gotten back together in May, it was "in the works" that his best friend (who works for his landscaping business) would move in with him into a house to rent (my bf had been living w/parents as rent is high around here). I am 24 & he’s 23. Right now, they (including his uncle who is the landlord) are renovating the small house, putting in new flooring, painting, new outlets etc. When we talk on the phone, i hear of all the neat things they’re doing to it. I’ve yet to be invited to come over to help, watch etc. I will be very honest: I am jealous that his friend gets to see him every day at work & now will live with him when renovations are done soon. I feel in a way that he’s taken my place. He is my competition. They are attached at the hip. I am lucky to see my boyfriend once or twice a week. And NO he is not gay, he is as straight as they come before anyone suggests that lol. I’m feeling really awkward about the situation but I don’t want to come across as the clingy, jealous girlfriend. His friend is getting to be part of a fun, new experience (getting a new house ready, picking out furniture to buy, etc) and I am not involved with the new place. I work full time but I’m still stuck at home, because I wouldn’t be able to afford a place without a roomate(s). Haven’t found anything yet. Anyway, the core of the issue is I just feel crappy how his friend gets to see him so much/do a lot with him. I feel left out and kind of like the third wheel. I usually have to wait til his friend leaves on a weekend to see him. I do believe we love each other but I also feel like I may be taken for granted.. How do i make it clear I need to be seen more & be more of a priority? How do I feel less jealous of his new roomate? I feel as though I am being pushed aside & it’s not a good feeling.. its like he’s trying to leave the single life but have me on the side (his friend is single & likes to hang out at bars some, kinda immature).. but yet he had pursued me for many years & acted like he loved me.. Any thoughts/input appreciated a ton.. basically it just feels like the roles are literally reversed.. I am the friend he hangs out with now & then, and he’s the girlfriend w/him 24/7 lol.. :-/ Thank You for help!

This may be long and Im very sorry!

Im 21 and my now ex is 28.met and it was love at first sight! He literally took my breath away, something I have NEVER felt before in my entire life. I knew from day one that he was the one… he had been married once before when he was 22 because she was pregnant with his son. he was then married again when i met him, but had filed for divorce but still living with his wife. I cut all ties and said I was not going to date someone who was married let alone living with her, Within 4 days, he had found an apartment, told his wife he was leaving and all contact was cut. He is from England and had nothing here in the states so when he moved into the apartment,Everything he had was under his wifes name because she was American. he had his clothes and a tv, so we started a life together, fast! within a month I had moved into his apartment and we had purchased furniture and made it our own.within the first year we got two kittens, and two dogs. everything was perfect.

The next year, we decided to purchase a home and this is when everything went downhill. He paid for everything, I mean everything and he never had a problem with it, at first he liked providing. I would pay for things when i could but I only worked part time and was a full time student. I paid the utilities when i could, but i did a lot of the grocery shopping or getting him his starbucks daily. When we moved into the house,things became more expensive and stressful on him. We began to argue about stupid things, which i believe stemmed from our financial issues. it got so bad that we began spending less time together. I know that I have an anger problem, so i would scream at him while he would give me the silent treatment, we did not communicate as well as we once had. I held grudges where he just needed space and I was never good at giving him his space.

We are both insecure and extremely jealous people, but it never was a huge issue because we were both so similar. because he came form the UK, he didnt have any friends here where I did, so eventually i got tired of not being able to talk to my friends and seeing them. He also wanted to control what i was wearing and didnt like that i spent an hour to do my hair and make up and get ready when we would do things, i wanted to look good for him! We are both attractive people and I was so scared of losing him (girls loved him, and his accent didnt help) so i wanted to make sure I was always attractive to him.

The straw that broke the camels back- he went out one night without me, said he would be home at 11 but wasnt until 1. he was at the bar across the street from my work. I stopped over there on my way home from work and saw him talking to two girls and one guy outside and freaked! We got in a huge fight and I broke up with him. It was the worst fight we ever had. The next morning we talked it out.A week later he left me and said he couldnt get over how I acted. I moved back home to my parents.

He broke up with me and didnt talk much for two months.I was devestated. I loved him and wanted him back. His birthday is new years, I asked him to a movie the night before (I had plans on new years) and he said yes. we went to "our" house after the movie and i ended up sleeping there and yes, we slept together. He asked me over on New years (his bday) but like i said i made prior plans. He was upset and accused me of being with someone else. over the next month we were hanging out and sleeping together and seeing how things were going. until… I found out that he was talking to two other girls, one who happened to go to my college who told me everything! She was 18 and worked at the local starbucks and he went in there everyday for his coffee and asked her for her number. the other woman, a 26 year old with two kids going through a divorce, was a regular at starbucks, she asked him for his number. He lied to me about it until I had proof of texts and emails from these women. I ended our "fling." Two weeks later he contacted me and apologized and showed me that he stopped contact with them. We got back together officially for a month, things werent going well. He was so distant and off with me, but he came to me to ask me back!!!!

A month later, he left me again and said that the spark was gone and he felt no chemistry. He said he loved me as a friend and that he still cares about me but isnt in love. I made the biggest mistake ever and begged and pleaded for him to try! I wouldnt let it be and it pushed him so far away that he said there is never a chance! its been two weeks now and he tells me he is going on a date tonight! Im physically sick and want him back! Moving on is not an option. I was so strong but now im desperate! I broke down and now he is annoyed and furious with me that i didnt drop it and move on and leave him to his space. He said i pushed him away by smothering him
HELP ME PLEASE! I need advice to get him back!!
Also, He still talks to me he still will help me with things that i ask such as moving or help with my computer.

And all this drama never occurred until the last 3 months of our relationship. we were perfect for a year and 9 months with no issues ever!
one more thing! SORRY!

He never gave a past girlfriend another chance! He always said that they are an ex for a reason, i never beleive that, i beleive you can work through anything. He also said when we got back together that he saw a huge change and me and that i was perfect for that month, but he couldnt explain why he couldnt get the spark back.

IM VERY NERVOUS ABOUT HIM DATING AND FINDING SOMEONE ELSE!

okay im done now.

This may be long and Im very sorry!

Im 21 and my now ex is 28.met and it was love at first sight! He literally took my breath away, something I have NEVER felt before in my entire life. I knew from day one that he was the one… he had been married once before when he was 22 because she was pregnant with his son. he was then married again when i met him, but had filed for divorce but still living with his wife. I cut all ties and said I was not going to date someone who was married let alone living with her, Within 4 days, he had found an apartment, told his wife he was leaving and all contact was cut. He is from England and had nothing here in the states so when he moved into the apartment,Everything he had was under his wifes name because she was American. he had his clothes and a tv, so we started a life together, fast! within a month I had moved into his apartment and we had purchased furniture and made it our own.within the first year we got two kittens, and two dogs. everything was perfect.

The next year, we decided to purchase a home and this is when everything went downhill. He paid for everything, I mean everything and he never had a problem with it, at first he liked providing. I would pay for things when i could but I only worked part time and was a full time student. I paid the utilities when i could, but i did a lot of the grocery shopping or getting him his starbucks daily. When we moved into the house,things became more expensive and stressful on him. We began to argue about stupid things, which i believe stemmed from our financial issues. it got so bad that we began spending less time together. I know that I have an anger problem, so i would scream at him while he would give me the silent treatment, we did not communicate as well as we once had. I held grudges where he just needed space and I was never good at giving him his space.

We are both insecure and extremely jealous people, but it never was a huge issue because we were both so similar. because he came form the UK, he didnt have any friends here where I did, so eventually i got tired of not being able to talk to my friends and seeing them. He also wanted to control what i was wearing and didnt like that i spent an hour to do my hair and make up and get ready when we would do things, i wanted to look good for him! We are both attractive people and I was so scared of losing him (girls loved him, and his accent didnt help) so i wanted to make sure I was always attractive to him.

The straw that broke the camels back- he went out one night without me, said he would be home at 11 but wasnt until 1. he was at the bar across the street from my work. I stopped over there on my way home from work and saw him talking to two girls and one guy outside and freaked! We got in a huge fight and I broke up with him. It was the worst fight we ever had. The next morning we talked it out.A week later he left me and said he couldnt get over how I acted. I moved back home to my parents.

He broke up with me and didnt talk much for two months.I was devestated. I loved him and wanted him back. His birthday is new years, I asked him to a movie the night before (I had plans on new years) and he said yes. we went to "our" house after the movie and i ended up sleeping there and yes, we slept together. He asked me over on New years (his bday) but like i said i made prior plans. He was upset and accused me of being with someone else. over the next month we were hanging out and sleeping together and seeing how things were going. until… I found out that he was talking to two other girls, one who happened to go to my college who told me everything! She was 18 and worked at the local starbucks and he went in there everyday for his coffee and asked her for her number. the other woman, a 26 year old with two kids going through a divorce, was a regular at starbucks, she asked him for his number. He lied to me about it until I had proof of texts and emails from these women. I ended our "fling." Two weeks later he contacted me and apologized and showed me that he stopped contact with them. We got back together officially for a month, things werent going well. He was so distant and off with me, but he came to me to ask me back!!!!

A month later, he left me again and said that the spark was gone and he felt no chemistry. He said he loved me as a friend and that he still cares about me but isnt in love. I made the biggest mistake ever and begged and pleaded for him to try! I wouldnt let it be and it pushed him so far away that he said there is never a chance! its been two weeks now and he tells me he is going on a date tonight! Im physically sick and want him back! Moving on is not an option. I was so strong but now im desperate! I broke down and now he is annoyed and furious with me that i didnt drop it and move on and leave him to his space. He said i pushed him away by smothering him
HELP ME PLEASE! I need advice to get him back!!
Also, He still talks to me he still will help me with things that i ask such as moving or help with my computer.

And all this drama never occurred until the last 3 months of our relationship. we were perfect for a year and 9 months with no issues ever!

12 hours ago
one more thing! SORRY!

He never gave a past girlfriend another chance! He always said that they are an ex for a reason, i never beleive that, i beleive you can work through anything. He also said when we got back together that he saw a huge change and me and that i was perfect for that month, but he couldnt explain why he couldnt get the spark back.

IM VERY NERVOUS ABOUT HIM DATING AND FINDING SOMEONE ELSE!

okay im done now.

I came home from work last night and my 16 year old male lovebird was laying on the bottom of the cage. He lost his grasping ability in his feet… they are all balled up. He is kind of crawling around on his belly.
There have been no changes in his diet, I see no difference in his stool, no visible injuries. The other bird in the cage eats the same as him and is fine.
I covered the bottom of his cage so that he wouldn’t hurt himself crawling on the bars. Been hand feeding him (he wouldn’t eat last night but ate very little today) and have been giving him water through an eye dropper.

What else can I do???
I cannot afford an avian vet. I’m a full time student and work full time and pay all my bills myself which leaves very little extra money.

I know it’s impossible to predict what a court will award but I wanted some guidelines of what’s "fair" when considering rehabilitative alimony. This is in the state of Florida.

The scenario: both husband and wife are under 30; he works and earns roughly k/year; she does not work and goes to school full-time. Earlier in the marriage, she worked and earned roughlyy k so it’s not like she has no skills at all. She will not consider taking a job right now but probably would if she didn’t have the alimony coming in at the current rate. The alimony agreement is only supposed to last until she completes school.

Currently she is receiving about 49% of his *post-tax* salary and I think that is unreasonable, but then again I’ve never been divorced so I don’t know what is fair and what isn’t. Her alimony covers her rent, car payment, insurance, cable, utilities, and pocket money; she also got literally everything in the divorce– all the furniture (every last stick), kitchen wares, TV’s, etc and he got nothing of tangible value. They are trying to finalize things without using lawyers but most of his friends think he is getting ripped off, especially since she won’t get a job.

Anyone have any personal experience to share or any references? I tried searching online and can only find very vague references to what rehabilitative alimony is and not how to actually calculate it. I know it’s supposed to get a person taken care of till they can re-enter the workforce but I don’t think that means "pay all of your bills while you refuse to work."

thanks in advance!

We have shopped IKEA for a few years now, and honestly, everything we have purchased except for some kitchen towels are crap…furniture has scratches, the glasses have chips or have broken and the rugs look gross. Now..we don’t have kids and I have a full time maid, so I know it’s not because we live more grossly than others. What do you think about IKEA?

My husband, my 6 month old boy and I used to live in a small city without any other relatives except for my brother in law, who used to visit once or twice a week to keep company with my husband and play videogames or watch a movie. He sometimes eated with us, and also helped and brought some food as well. About a month ago the brother brought his wife from another state to live in a small appartment 5 minutes away from us. I thought it would be nice to have a female counterpart in the family but it has turned out hell. They both show up every weekend on Friday, Saturday and Sunday evening without even calling and expect us to feed them. They sit in the couch of the living room to watch TV and eat our food while my husband and I take care of the baby, clean, take a shower, study, cook, or do what little we can in our little spare time. We can’t even go out anymore. They dont offer to help, or bring any food, or clean after themselves, or invite us to their place. They spend their money in crap like beauty bars, dates, new expensive furniture and clothes, but they want to eat from us and spend our electricity. They are both college students and work 1/2 time. I work full time and my husband works 1/2 time and is on a Master’s program. We have to pay for daycare and are struggling to save every penny. I know it is easy to shut the door on their faces and I am willing to do it as a last resource, but can I have any creative tips since they are "family" and our "only" family in town? I am sick of being nice but I don’t want to create a quarrel unless there is no other way. Thanks!