My boyfriend’s family really dislikes me. It all started around Novemeber, when we started seeing each other. He asked me to move in fairly quickly, and I accepted. He had even mentioned it to his mother and she was excited for me to move in. I moved in around January. I had previously had my own apartment, my own everything.. I had been single and independent for years. Shortly after I moved in, his parents called him and asked him to come over and have a family talk with them. He drove over to their house and sat through a lecture about how he was changing because of me. They also said I was a party girl and that I was an alcoholic. (I drink socially, but not excessively. And it’s not very often that I go out socially either.) He defended me to his family and told them they were wrong and that there was nothing wrong with me. He came home and was honest with me about what his parents concerns were. It really hurt my feelings. I thought my relationship with is parents was good, but really they were talking behind my back.
His brother came over in January and told us that his parents had been complaining at home about how I changed the way the house looks and it doesn’t even look like their son’s house anymore. I had an apartment before I moved in.. I had furniture and decorations, what was I supposed to do with them?? Anyhow, we mentioned these things to his mom and she denied ever saying anything.
Last month my boyfriend implusively bought a new vehicle. His family blames me for making him get a new car, when I had nothing to do with his decision. Then my boyfriend and I talked and decided to trade in our other car and get another new one. Realistically, we have to pay to tag 2 new vehiles, but the payments would be the same as our other cars. I just feel like everytime he makes a decision, it’s my fault.
On Saturday night, we went to his parents house to ’show face.’ We brought some movies, because we thought we’d stay and watch something with them. Well, we mentioned it and no one seemed interested, so everyone kinda dispursed and did their own thing. I’ve been to his parents house multiple times, and I don’t usually have much to say. Mostly I’m too afraid something I’ll say will be twisted and used against me later, but I’m also a very shy and quiet person. We went outside and his brother’s girlfriend was grinding on his brother lap and it was just awkward. I mean, they were just messing around, but it made me and my boyfriend uncomfortable. My boyfriend mentioned they should ‘get a room’ and then shortly after we left. My boyfriend was told by his mother yesterday that he should call and talk to his brother. My boyfriend called his bother and his brother pretty much said I was using him. He kept saying they try to talk with me but I don’t open up and that his parents were ranting about me once we left the night before. (for the record, I do talk to them when they talk to me directly. I can’t help that I’m not a social butterfly)
So, my boyfriend called his mom and wanted to question her. She got all defensive and just handed the phone to his dad. His dad tried to play it safe and didn’t say too much. He did say that I should be calling his mom if I have an issue. But I’m not the one with the issue, she is and she tells everyone else about it but me! He said he didn’t have any issues with me and that we shouldn’t worry about what his brother was doing since it wasn’t our house. I can respect that, but it still doesn’t change that it made me uncomfortable. Something like that wouldn’t happen in my parents house.
There have been tons of other things, but I don’t have time to list them all. It just seems like I’m never doing anything right in their eyes. My boyfrieind has gone out to a bar with me twice and they were accusing him of being an alcoholic last night and saying he might need to go see someone about it. Every decision we make is the wrong one. If I come over and don’t talk, I’m bitchy. If I come over and talk, then I’ll say the wrong thing.
HELP??
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Inside, on the second floor is a game room/small bar which I intend to use for the adult beverages and as a place for people to hang out, and on the third floor where the kitchen is, is where the food will be (obviously) and I was thinking about moving the furniture to the side and making it a dance floor when people are done eating. I also enjoy the numerous balcony’s for a romantic evening reception.