My husband and I are having an issue as to how to handle our friend’s children when they come to our home. We have no children and are not planning to have any. Many of our friends have kids and bring them along when they come to visit. Most of our friend’s kids are very well behaved but there is one couple friend of ours whose son is just awful. He will not listen to anything. His mom carries those mini chocolate bars in her purse and is giving them to him constantly while he is in our living room. He then proceeds to wipe his chocolate covered fingers all over our furniture. He plays our Wii all the time and holds the remote like two inches from the screen and doesn’t wear the wrist band (he has almost broken our television doing this). Last week, they came over and he was playing with an expensive vase that had been a gift from my grandmother. His mom didn’t say anything so I asked him to please put the vase down so he gave me this look and then dropped it on the floor; shattering it into a million pieces (btw, he’s 3) and his mom just looked over at me and said "Oops; sorry". My husband said something to her about it and she got totally offended and said "That’s just the way kids are; if you had any, you would know that". She told my husband that we are not supposed to be "parenting" her son. I didn’t think we were but are we not allowed to make rules in our own home? When we go to others’ homes, we follow their house rules and behave respectfully. Now, my question is; were we in the wrong here?

Here’s an analogy. Good honest people who believe in God’s word living in poverty while rich filthy pigs who disobey Him live in luxury. Here’s an even better story! My dad chose drugs over me, so I’ve had to go through school without a male influence to guide me. I’ve never even had a girlfriend (I’m 15). Wanna hear something better? I’ve had to live in a hotel for a couple of months due to a shortage of money, moving in the middle of the school year to a different state! I live with my mother,brother,aunt, and grandmother. Just imagine 5 people living in such a limited space for over 8 weeks! And please don;t blame my mother. She’s done all she’s can raising two kids..If you want to blame someone blame my dad for not supporting her. It got better eventually, so it seemed. We rented some furniture once we moved into our new apartment( it was better than the projects at least) but juggling that with car notes, light bills, electric bill, etc. we had Aarons coming by knocking on the door everyday! It was humiliating for our friends to see an empty apartment; imagine going to the bus stop with them. Plus my grandmother is not who she used to be. She has dementia so she has random mood swings, plus mumbles to herself occasionally. She also has a BAD smoking habit, which leaves the house smelling like a bar! I know my mom feels horrible about all of this, which is why I don’t really mention these things around her. I apologize for telling my life story, but keeping these things in can drive a man insane!

All I ask is why some have it easy while others don’t. Its not fair, and it seems like there’s no end! Most kids worry about the silliest things, like who to text and wondering if he/she likes them or not. I worry about simply inviting friends over, but having people taking our furniture away while they’re still there. Or if my grandmother will leave a bad impression on them.

Anyway just answer the question,please.

It is an unfinished chair. Does the chair need priming first? And what will be safe to seal it with?
I am a Grandmother and I hope this will be a piece that will be in the family for a while. So, I have bought a non toxic home decor acrylic paint, but am not sure how to make it last.
I wanting to use the acrylic so that I can paint it different colors and do some stenciling.

I have been looking for any picture or design of this chair for over two years and still cannot find it. It belonged to my father-in-law’s grandmother. It was destroyed in a fire and I was hoping to get it custom made.

You dont have to read the paragraph…….skip to the bottom:)

-We all have things about us which we highlight or downplay-(A) It is common for us to look at ourselves and to judge our traits as "strengths" and "weaknesses," and then to react to each as it helps or hurts us in our daily progress. We laugh at silly things we keep doing and wonder why we do them again and again. I see a particular trait, my nervous habits, as something of a jinx which I think I inherited from my mother. Sadly, these habits have affected me in my home, school, and personal life. Although my nervous habits might seem amusing, they have also caused some very serious consequences. (B)

One place my nervous habits have created trouble for me is at home. -For example-(C), I was sitting on our old swivel bar stool. As I was spinning around, I accidentally swung my arm out too far and knocked Mom’s vase off the stand. That might not have been too bad, if it had been just some old vase, but it was valuable and a gift from her grandmother. I am still doing extra chores around the house to apologize to her for being so fidgety. And then there is the time I decided to drive Dad’s car around the block for practice. Because of my nervous habit of twirling my hair whenever I get impatient, I was distracted when a neighbor’s dog ran out in the road. By the time I swung the wheel, the car was crashed against the Gardner’s oak tree. I will be doing chores around the yard for the next century to pay for the damage I caused! We will have the cleanest house and nicest yard because of my nervous habits.

Another place (D) nervousness has spelled disaster is at school. For instance, sometimes teachers react badly toward me because I have trouble sitting still for long periods. I remember getting up in Miss Stein’s class to lean against the wall; she yelled at me for being rude and suggested I might show more interest in the dean’s office than in her science class. I still have difficulty sitting in a desk for an entire hour, but I know that my participation grade will suffer if I cannot follow class guidelines, so I sit still and try to look very interested. Not only teachers but also (E) some students react to my nervous habits. One guy named Rob in last year’s math class used to turn around and glare at me for kicking his desk. I avoid him in the halls this year, because I know he probably blames his poor math grade on me. -School would definitely be better if I could leave my habits at home! -(F)

Finally, the place where my nervous habits most affect me is my -personal life-(G) Some of my habits are silly and personally bothersome. For example, my chronic nail biting will not kill me, but it makes me dislike my hands. It is very hard to function while sitting on your hands or hiding them in your pockets! This may seem silly but it would be nice if I could keep my hands out of my mouth. However, (H) my doctor’s concern with my overall health is not so silly. Hypertension runs in my family, which causes high blood pressure. My doctor wants me to jog and do other things to work off my excess energy so that my future health does not become a serious problem. The physical harm caused by my nerves makes me realize that it is a pretty serious habit which I must address.

Obviously, all people have particular traits or habits which are a part of their everyday lives. They are so much a part of me, it is difficult to say where the habit ends and "I" begin! -Without a doubt, my nervous habit has affected many areas — home, school, and personal — of my life-(I). Maybe I could use my habit to help others; maybe I could send this paper to the teachers in our school, so they would better understand other hyper kids who just cannot sit still but do not mean to be rude.- Do you think I would become more popular with some students on campus? -(J)

A- Lead in sentence
B-Lead out sentence
C-Transition
F- Thesis
G-Man idea for body paragraph
I-Clincher sentence
J-Lead-out sentence
Did i do it right?

Yesterday we had lunch with some friends, their daughter and daughter’s kids.

The 6 year old had spaghetti with no sauce. She pcked up each strand with her fingers, put one end in her mouth and sucked it in. Her grandmother told her several times that she shouldnt do that. Grandma showed her how to wind the spaghetti around her fork. The kid didnt pay any attention. Sucked it all down.

The 3 yr old was up and running all over. He hid under booths, crawled around other people’s feet, ran thu the bar area and was crawling on the pool table in the game room.

The kids grandmother said sternly not to do this. Grandfather said to stop, or he’d be forced to go get the boy himself. But, neither of them did more than admonish them.

The kid’s mother sat there. Paid very little attention to the kids behaviour.

I wanted to get up, get that little boy, set him down in his chair and tell him I would spank if he got up again, & mean it. I didnt tho.

What should I have done?

I’m 23 years old, and FOR NOW, I am still living with my parents. That’s my grandmother, my aunt, and Godzilla… I mean, my mom. Now, everyone in my immediate family makes me want to pick up something heavy and throw it at them, but my mother is by far the worst. I can list almost all of the irritating and maddening things she does that make my life a living nightmare, but I’ll keep it to a minimum of four. First off, whenever I want to go somewhere special to chill (and yeah, I still have to ask her if I can…), or if I want to do anything remotely fun, she comes up with every reason possible to make me stay home and tells me I’m wrong for going to the same places over and over again; when in fact, I don’t! She does this every time. For example, there’s a sports bar I like to go to in Dallas called the Regal Beagle. It’s a pretty chill place for the most part… perhaps a bit of a dive, but… what can you do? I know a lot of the bartenders there, and they all seem cool to me whenever I’m there. My mother, basically, hates the fact that I have a social life, and frequently says that "people who like to hang out a lot are thugs…" Okay, I’m a thug for wanting to have a little fun, freedom and frivolity? When I try to explain my case (which gets very heated VERY quickly), she starts yelling "Go ahead! Go to the Regal Beagle, wander around and look stupid like you always do at that place! That’s why they’re tired of seein’ your ass now! Stay at home!" So much for reasoning, huh? Another thing is that she sucks at those ‘little talks’ we have. For example, whenever I’m feeling like my best friend is distancing himself from me (something that has been on my mind for the longest time…), my mom isn’t the one to help me feel better. She says things like "I don’t wanna keep hearin’ these sob stories about how your friend may be abandoning you! He ain’t your boyfriend! Shit, you need to focus on getting a girlfriend!" I’m always looking for someone to date, but what she doesn’t get is that my friends matter to me a lot, too; and it hurts badly when I think I’m being treated wrong by them. Plus, she’s always, ALWAYS talking (or shouting) over me when I try to express my opinion on anything! I can’t ever get a word in inch-wise. Very irritating and rude. And the biggest thing that really gets me pissed? In December, I signed a lease to a new place and I have a roommate named Laura. The apartment is 3 flat (6 between us two), and features a fireplace, two huge rooms with two huge closets, and a poolside view. It’s amazing. However, it’s been two months and I haven’t gotten the chance to move into it yet. Why? Because my mom insists that I get furniture first, and she thinks my roomie is someone who’s out to boss me around and take advantage of me. Laura is my friend, and I know she wouldn’t try anything. My mom really needs to realize that I’m an adult now, and I’m not going to listen to every little thing she says (or yells) anymore. Am I right or wrong on this one?

Everytime I do something it gets disregarded and later thrown back at me as if I did the opposite. Such as if I do my chores.. later on she’ll yell and scream saying I did nothing. Or when I’m looking for a summer time job, it takes awhile but she’ll accuse me of wasting my time and not doing anything. But the job starts in 2 weeks, so of course I wait.

And today when I came into the kitchen for lunch to possibly help with cooking, like scrambling the eggs, she says at my face that I need to learn how to make an omelet.

But she taught me when I was in gr 7. That was pretty much 7 years ago. So when I said I already know how to make an omelet she goes into a sudden rage and even threaten to hit me with our coaster stool. (Seriously, no lie, she picked it up and said, "I’LL HIT YOU WITH THIS YOU FAT B*TCH.") And curses at me saying I’m the worse daughter in the world and I should be kicked out of the house to fend for myself.

I’m so damn frustrated she’s pissing me off! Normal or not?
Yes.. I am Asian… and so is my mom. And of course I’m raised in a western culture.

But my father says the reason for her irrationalities is because of her fudged up upbringing. It may lead to some excuses with her behaviour.. because she has threatened me with coat hangers, books, shovels, and most harsh is her own hand.

I have only really witnessed the loving environment that western families have, and I envy that so very much. My mother is cold and I believe she acts like a child. As if she’s never grown up from her family. I have even witnessed her telling me that she hated her own mother, my grandmother.

She’s a two even three faced woman whom I can never respect because she still lifts her hand to threatened me even though I am now in university and should now begin to learn responsibility as an independent person.

So when I said I knew how to make an omelet, I meant it as pride, and yet she took offense and threatened me with a chair telling me I’m an awful daughter.

I’m hearing horror stories about funky, stinky cruise ships!!

I want to book trip for my Grandmother–her first cruise–and I want a TOP NOTCH experience for her.
MONEY IS NO OPTION-Which Line do you recommend??

..and Grandmother loves to party–bar hoppin & club dancing–no rocking chairs for her!!
I’ve never been on a cruise before–please help!!

Thanks!

I am 24 yrs old(teacher) and have been married to my husband who is 33 yrs old(airforce currently he is in Germany) about 2.5 yrs now.I have a daughter who is 4 yrs old from a previous relationship with an ex.bf .My marriage is not working read previous post for details.I want to go back to my home state of NJ where my family lives as well as my daughters father in the next few weeks. My question is what do i take with me from the house?I plan to take the obvious my clothing,my personals,my daughters clothing,my daughters bed set/decorations,daughters toys,pets(3 dogs and a cat)
and the dyson vacuum.Do i have the right to take kitchen supplies or furniture ect?
Also do i have to ask his premission to take half of whats in our joint account?
My husband has been in Germany for the past 6 months and comes home soon i think in the next 3 months.My stepson lives with me comes and goes as he pleases at this point my intentions are to send him to an aunt or his grandmother.I wish to get through to my husband that i’m fed up!

I am moving to Italy in October for about three years and I wanted to know what is it like, and I heard that there are no closets or kitchen cabinets. My friend told me to go to Ikea and get everything there when I get to Italy. Is this all true and is Ikea any good for closets or cabinets (I have never been to an Ikea). My grandmother came from Italy back in the 1940′s and I USED to speak Italian when I was little, but that is alot different than actually going there, so if anybody has been there please tell me what there is to do there also. I will be in Naples if that helps. Thanks so much!!

Me, my mom, and my grandmother have decided to upgrade the house I’m living in. We’re planning on getting a new carpet, getting new bedding, kitchen appliances, and I’m going to paint the house. Do you have any tips? What carpet company offers the best deals? What companies sell the best interior and exterior paints? Should I get new furniture? Rearrange my furniture? Do you have any helpful suggestions??? I’d like any help I can get, thx!

I have 2 chairs from my grandmother, they’re both wood. Cute, may have been kitchen chairs. Can’t find any info on them. On the back of the seat there is a label with picture of a black woman. Surrounding the picture it says DINAH COOK FURNITURE TRADEMARK. Thanks.

Today my 4 and half year old daughter and I were playing with some fake food and play doh. Within 15 minutes of playing my daughter said mmm, I want a sandwhich.

I then told her, you do? I have to check if we have any sandwhich stuff (to make a sanwhich with.)

My daughter then hopped down off of the stool and ran in to the kitchen where her grandmother was and told her that she wanted a sandwhich.

Then I hollered from the living room into the kitchen that we have to finish playing or clean up before we can have lunch.

My daughter hollered back that she was making a sandwhich.

To which I responded it’s not lunch time yet and we have to clean up. I heard her grandmother said mommy’s calling you. I then heard her groan and mumble that she was hungry.

When she came back in I told her we must clean first (there were toys everywhere in her room and on the table)

She started cleaning and I reminded her of how important it is to clean up. She got upset somewhere down the line and started pouting and eventually crying. She became really upset. I had to calm her down.

She got all the work done (picked up all of her toys) and we together went into the kitchen and made her a nice sandwhich.

While we ate lunch together she told me that she loved me, and I told her that I loved her too.

Do you think that I was too hard on her? That I acted unreasonably? I just feel that maybe sometimes I am too firm with her, which causes her to get upset with me. I feel that I nag too.

She is a really good kid. Everyone always tells me how nice and well mannered she is.

This woman that I have known my entire life died Friday. She was like a grandmother to me. She helped take care of me. She always made me my favorite food. I use to sit on a stool in the kitchen while she cooked and talk to her for hours, she would sing with me and dance with me even though she had a bum leg. I spent so much time with her growing up. Granted as an adult I didn’t go see her as much as I should have, but I think everyone is guilty of that. You get busy with work and family- I did go visit with her, but I definitly should have made a point to go see her more. I visited her in the hospital, when her health started failing and she had to be hospitalized. When she died on Friday, I had every intention of going to the funeral, and was even preparing what I was going to say, only to get a call from my mom saying that her daughter already had the funeral today. I am devistated, I can’t believe her daughter would not tell me when the funeral was. I didn’t get to go, pay my respects to this woman who was such a huge part of my life and I will never get that moment back. My mom says I shouldn’t be upset because her daughter was grieving, had to make all the arangements, and had to pick up family at the airport, etc… while I understand that, I did try calling her to see if I could help with anything however did not hear back from her. I am so filled with anger right now, I could probably go my whole life without speaking to her daughter again, but she is like family, I was always apart of any big event in her life such as her graduation, her dance recitiuals, her wedding, she was there for my son’s birth and is my son’s god mother, etc… but I can’t believe she would not tell me when the funeral was, that in my eyes was a slap in the face, I am so hurt and distraught, I don’t know that I will get over this. Am I being selfish being this upset and should be more understanding like my mom says-because right now I don’t understand how I wasn’t the first person she called to tell when the arangements were-much less not call at all