I moved back home after 6 years of sweet independence after a breakup.It was supposed to be a 3 mo thing until my bro and I had money for furniture and such.He cannot keep a job or hold onto his money and so he is WAY behind on the deal.Its now been 8 mo of living there.My parents have "banned" us from doing certain things, like sleeping over at friend’s houses,going out too many nights during the week.We are on a family plan as far as the cell phones go,and b/c they suspected I was talking to/seeing my ex they looked at the records to see the numbers I had been calling and then confronted me about it.I have said many times that Im 25 and I pay rent to live here and I should be free to do what I please barring coming in wasted or hurting someone.I think this is a total invasion of privacy.They think Im ungrateful.They dont pay for the phone or anything else having to do with me.I have a friend who needs help with her mortgage and I need a place of freedom.
They think that they owe me no explaination about anything they do.They refuse to tell me how they know I talk to my ex even though I already know how.(they went online) My question is when is it too far?Do they have the right to know everything about everything in their adult child’s life?Do they have the right to institute rules and bannings?My friend needs help and I need a place, but I have much younger siblings that will be heartbroken when I go.They did know that it was temporary at the beginning and I was supposed to wait for my bro but he is really slacking and its been too long.I feel like I have to ask permission for things and ask for my freedom, and that bugs me.My parents are still very intimidating to me for some reason.How do I get the "balls" to really really tell them NO not "i have a problem with that" They say they are not controlling,I think otherwise.Im 25 have a great job for 7 yrs,earn good money,good work ethic,go to family things,nice person…any advice?

Do people who live in transitional housing have the same renters’ rights has regular apartment/house renters? How about if a business is in charge of the transitional housing (ie. the YWCA)? Can the business impose its own rules? What can a person in this situation do if they feel their rights were violated?
I was in a situation in which I lived at the YWCA (dorm living). It took months for maintenance issues to be resolved, and housekeeping was horrible. When the air conditioning broke down, the women were forced to brave the heat (it was 90+ degrees outside). The Y wouldn’t even provide fans. The carpet and furniture needed to cleaned (the carpet replaced). No one could really tell whether the fire alarms worked. There were room inspections (invasion of privacy?). Instead of hiring help on the weekends to empty the loads of kitchen trash, the tenants were told to ‘watch’ their trash or take it outside to the dumpster. Everything was terrible!!!