What to do about my bartending wife?
Before you begin to think or believe this is a typical bartending question, please think again. It’s not. And I need some serious insight in order to make my marriage last.
I met my wife two years ago–I am much older than she is and she is in college. I am crippled, live in a wheel chair, and have medical problems stemming from a lifelong battle with alcoholism and cholesterol. My wife is a trophy that I’m finding harder and harder to keep polished.
She now tends bar at one of the VFW bars in town. We live in Little Creek, Virginia. There are two places (other than Panama City where SDV training is taught) that base the Navy SEALs. Little Creek, Virginia, and San Diego, California. And this is where my problem lies. Everynight my wife leaves our house and goes to bartend at the "SEAL" VFW bar. The SEAL platoons who are not deployed have kind of "marked their territory" with this particular bar, and the other veterans (Army, Air Force…) go to other bars in the area. Folks–please read this part carefully–my wife rolled me out there to the bar one night (only once) and I noticed how the only SEALs that come are not married. They are all single. Also, I got a glimpse of how beautiful these men are (just being honest, not gay). These SEAL guys are not normal. They look like male fashion models who just happen to be war machines. They have scars (from the war) and tattoos but they are not trashy (don’t smoke cigarrettes and don’t drink too much). A few I talked to had college degrees, and the others without college degrees were likewise educated. Again, they own this bar basically. It’s known as the "SEAL bar." But you haven’t heard what the problem is yet:
My wife now works her normal shift and the late shift (10 to 2 am). She comes home with her makeup and lipstick and hair scattered, and sometimes when I roll fast enough and make it into the room she changes in, I notice she is not wearing panties. I haven’t checked to see if doesn’t go to work without panties, but she has always worn panties before. Also, she wears more makeup and perfume, and dresses up more before she goes to tend bar (she used to work at another bar and didn’t get all dolled up like she does at the new bar).
I want someone (woman or man) to honestly tell me what is going on. I’m really not a great husband–I have mood swings because of all the pills I’m on–and I think she might be doing stuff with them. She sometimes doesn’t get home until like three or four. And she and I never have sex (limited sex) anymore, but she doesn’t complain either.
The bar has no supervision and, frankly, knowing how wild my wife used to be I could see stuff happening at the bar itself. These SEAL guys really stick together and I’m sure they are not offended by watching one of their platoon mates get some action, even right there at the bar. My wife has always been very open and she is not shy about her beautiful body.
Just shoot me straight, if you can. What’s going on at that bar, or why is she getting home so late? I miss my wife.